Nowadays lots of adults separate or get divorced. It is usually because one or both of them are unhappy, and decide things have got to change. They may not love each other anymore, or can't get on with each other.

There are two important things to remember if your parents are splitting up:

It's not your fault. Nothing you have done has made your parents split up. They are splitting up from each other, not you.

They still love you. They may get cross more often because they are stressed. But they still love you.

Splitting up can be really stressful for you and your parents. They will be unhappy so might argue, shout, get angry, or behave oddly. Often they don't realise how much it is upsetting you.

When they have split up things will be different. They will live apart, and you will live with only one of them. You might see your other parent at certain times, like weekends. They might start seeing other people. Talk to them about how you feel.

Sometimes it helps to have someone else to talk to about how you are feeling. If you have a relative that you know well and trust, like a grandparent, you could talk to them. You could pray, and tell God how you feel about everything. You can always talk to TNT leaders about things.

This website has more information on divorce.

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